“Technology is allowing every aspect of flirting to be localized and be location-based,” Young says.“The rise of instant gratification social media platforms have turned courtship into a sped-up process.”The movie depicts a man falling in love with an advanced operating system.Here he offers up some intriguing ideas about relationships in 2025, based on three “macro” trends: that technology is speeding up how we interact; that unconventional relationships are becoming more accepted; and that kink (e.g. Projects like 23and Me and u Biome reveal our personal genetics and microbial make-ups. A service that matches us with someone with complementary genes and gut.After all, who wants to be someone who isn’t microbiomically sympatico?“Once you finished a relationship, you report it and get an analysis of what went right, and what you need to optimize next time,” Young says.“It’s an index of how you’ve done, and what you may consider doing differently in the future.”Sparks & Honey releases its “future of relationships” mini-report in December.In the future, we’ll be quantifying not only ourselves but our relationships.“The use of wearable technologies bleeding over into the way we interact with each other,” says Young.
That could lead to backlash, like the movement, Make Love Not Porn, that Cindy Gallop is trying to foster, or detox services that wash our minds of skin-on-skin imagery. “Large numbers of men are no longer physically attracted to human women,” Young notes.
It sounds sci-fi, but Young believes that sentient artificially intelligent entities could start to compete for our affections.
There are also going to be more physical sex surrogates to take care of our needs. Technology allowing us to stimulate each other remotely will be normal. Full-on sex bot stand-ins can’t be much further away.
The most intimate moments of our lives will become “snack media,” as in Khoaliti’s Vine upload.
“As relationship cycles speed up, breaking up becomes much easier to do,” Young says. Revenge analytics is the geeky cousin: mining material to get back at exes will be easy going forward.